Seduce any woman

By Lauren Murrow; Additional reporting by Omar Glenn D. Belo; Photographs by Bahag/BWP



"Hearing your desire is the strongest aphrodisiac."



"Sexual pleasure is linked to the gradual process of seduction, which includes courtship, touching, and kissing."

Stand proud, fellas. We are having more sex than the guys in the land of triple-D breast implants and porn. Way more. Surprised? American men are portrayed in pop culture and in the Internet as the sex gods of the world, constantly flocked by women, and having sex in the blink of an eye. Besides, they have George Clooney and Matthew McConaughey. And has anyone tallied Tommy Lee's numbers? The stats tell a different story, though. According to a Men's Health survey of 40,000 readers worldwide, we, along with other men in other countries, have sex up to 70 more times a year than they do. Ready to crown yourself king? Hold your horses. We surveyed the globe to know the secrets that make fellow stags from other countries so appealing to the ladies in their home turf. We also took advantage of expert advice from around the world to further boost your seduction skills. Get your black book ready and master their tips, as well as our own if you're still not too familiar with it. Soon, you'll simply be able to say "G'day" and mate.


ENGLAND
Take her, outside

Hugh Grant has typecast British men as meek and bumbling. But according to a 2005 Durex survey of 317,000 people in 41 countries, these blokes are so irresistible, their partners can't even wait to get back to the flat. Twice as many Brits as Americans report having had sex on public transportation and in alleyways and gardens. "Many a chap has fallen in love in the checkout line at the supermarket," says Vicki Ford, a British psychosexual therapist and the author of Overcoming Sexual Problems. And apparently they consummate it on the way home.

How to do it: Arouse her temptation. Pull her into a side alley or a dark doorway and plant one while gently stroking her neck, suggests Emily Dubberley, a British sex expert and the author of Brief Encounters. "Fear of being caught stimulates her fight-or-flight response," explains Ford. "Adrenaline floods her system, making everything feel much more intense."



AUSTRALIA
Drive her wild

Men love their cars, but Australian men love in their cars. Almost 75 percent of Aussies have had sex on the road, according to Durex. "We can always find a private space to get it on," says Jan Hall, PhD, an Australian sex therapist. The car provides the ideal cover: "Sneaking away for a surreptitious shag or fondle says, ‘I can't wait,' " says Gabrielle Morrissey, PhD, Australian author of A Year of Spicy Sex.

How to do it: Heading to a party is the perfect opportunity to lure her over to the driver's sidethe mood is up, and you're dressed to the nines. Playfully graze her inner thigh with your fingertips. Suggest that it's proper to be fashionably late–how should we fill the time?–and park on a secluded street for a quickie. "It's like sharing a secret all night," Morrissey says, "especially if you've promised each other an encore."


ROMANIA
Play it straight

Meeting women is easy, if you're not sidetracked by insecurity ("Is she looking at me?"), coy games ("Have our waitress ask her waitress what she's drinking"), or body-language interpretation ("Dude, her eyes say no, but the angle of her feet says olé!"). When Romanian men want a woman, they tell her. "The men here have a lot of self-confidence," says Felicia Abaza, sex editor of Men's Health Romania. "And the women are tuned to respond to it."

How to do it: Tired come-ons will fall flat. Instead, lean in unexpectedly and whisper in her ear, "I just had to be near you." Be mindful of your tone. Brash: bad. Calm: good. "Caress her with your voice," says Patricia Cihodaru, MsC, a Romanian psychologist and sex expert. And when you've become friendly enough that you won't get a punch in the chops, "say she looks beautiful and tell her how much you want her," says Cihodaru. "Hearing your desire is the strongest aphrodisiac."


CHINA
Build tension with technology

Forget the three-day rule. In China, men follow up the day after a successful date—by e-mail. "Technology plays a big role in relationships here," says Yoyoo Chow, sex editor of Men's Health China. "Most couples meet over the Internet. So if a man doesn't take the initiative, she'll find someone else pretty quickly."

How to do it: Send a short, suggestive note, says Chow. Something as simple as "Last night...wow! When can I see you again?" will incite her interest. If she feels the same way, she'll respond accordingly. As the sexual tension builds, resist the temptation to pour out your soul or create a list of your top 10 fantasies. At this early stage, short equals sexy—always. And remember: Use of emoticons will ensure that you spend the night alone.


PHILIPPINES
Keep her coming

It's good to be in the 21st century. If this survey was done decades ago, the Philippines might be cellar dwellers. Now, rejoice. You have sex more times a week than most guys in the world. On average, Pinoys have sex at a rate of almost four times a week (3.95) as opposed to the Italian stallions (3.48) and the American stags (2.95). "That's not difficult to believe," says Agnes Bueno, MD, consultant at the Human Sexuality Clinic in St. Luke's Medical Center, Quezon City. "There are some younger ones who have sex 10 times in a day." If we had the land area of China, we'd be a superpower by now.

How to do it: A guy is easy to arouse but a woman is much more complicated, according to Dr. Bueno. "A lot of men, not only in the Philippines, are premature ejaculators. A woman takes longer to get aroused—eh ikaw naman gusto mo tapos na kaagad," says Dr. Bueno. Develop creativity and endurance, as well as take advantage of the woman's multi-orgasmic nature. "You may even have your first ejaculation and then you can go watch a movie or something. Get your second wind and romanticize your woman while you're at it," she adds. "Maybe by that time she'll be ready for her own orgasm. She can even have 6-10 in one encounter. You just have to be creative." Quit the smokes, too. You'll need all the gas from your lungs.


ITALY
Seduce her with food

It's no secret that good food, wine, and conversation lead to great sex. "Italian men flock to dinner parties to meet women," says Adriana Amedei, sex editor at Men's Health Italy. "There's no crowd, no noise, it's relaxed. All you have to do is share your opinions...at least to start." The real mating game, says Amedei, begins at the table. Flirting overtly over a meal (or discreetly under the table) builds tension that will spill over later. "Food and sex are intimately connected, because they tap into the senses," says Martha Hopkins, author of InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook.

How to do it: "Listen attentively to her, make eye contact, and seek out a common interest," says Hopkins. "Then, while eating, conjure up the same sounds that accompany passionate sex: mmm, oooh, aahh." You're creating a mood and a fantasy. Be subtle about it, however. You don't want the host to say, "Um, Fred, do you mind? We're eating."


INDIA
Prolong your pleasure

Indian men know that the journey is almost always more interesting than the destination. "Sexual pleasure is linked to the gradual process of seduction, which includes courtship, touching, and kissing," says Sanjay Srivastava, PhD, author of Passionate Modernity. "Focusing on the finish misses the point."

How to do it: Practice a technique called karezza, in which the man remains inside the woman for at least 10 minutes, moving only when necessary to maintain an erection. Penetrate her slowly and gently. Match your breathing and maintain eye contact to focus on your emotional connection, not the physical act. "Conventional sex can be very limiting," says Kenneth Ray Stubbs, PhD, author of The Essential Tantra. "This results in a larger climax for both partners."


NETHERLANDS
Play with positions

Lovers in the Netherlands know what they want—and how to ask for it. Sixty-four percent of Dutch men and women are confident asserting their needs during sex, according to the Durex survey. "In bars, men are picked up as often as they approach women themselves, and both are willing to experiment in bed," says Achsa Vissel, a Dutch sex psychologist. Being forward with your compliments–and desires–will pave the way for pleasure.

How to do it: "Dutch men pay attention to places that seem less erotic, like the inner arms, back, and shoulders," says Vissel. Shaking up the routine leads to more sex: Sixty-three percent of the Dutch are satisfied with the amount of sex they're having, compared with 54 percent of Filipinos. When your partner is ready to move past the missionary position, try moves that allow you to stroke her clitoris during sex, like doggy-style or cowgirl.


GREECE
Don't be so uptight

We may be bombarded with sexual imagery all day, but sex talk is still taboo for many Filipinos. Not in Greece…. "We talk about sex all the time—in the office, with our friends, with our partners," says Nikki Hayia, sex editor of Men's Health Greece. "A Greek man can talk dirty to his woman in front of 10 people, and it doesn't bother him to kiss and touch her in public." Simple public displays of affection can work for you, too: A recent study by the Berman Center in Chicago found that couples who kiss often in nonsexual situations are eight times more likely to be sexually satisfied.

How to do it: Hint at what's to come, says Hayia: Subtly stroke her thigh or lower back during dinner; run your fingers up her leg; steal a lingering kiss on her bare shoulder at a crowded bar. Hayia leaves this food for thought for the uptight ones: "Relax, guys. Have sex like there's no tomorrow."